One of the most important personal decisions you can make on your road to success is to accept complete responsibility for everything you are and are currently experiencing, as well as everything you will ever become or experience. This acknowledgement has been the defining moment for many successful people throughout history. Personal responsibility is the paramount trait of leadership and the main source of high performance in every person and in every situation. Let’s take a look at what it means to accept complete responsibility.
When you blame others for anything in your life that you’re not happy about, you’re giving them the power to create (or destroy) your happiness. Accepting responsibility means that you refuse, even if it’s from this moment on, to criticize or blame others for any reason. When you accept full responsibility for a situation, it means you have the power to create the solution. Most of the time, you do that anyway, don’t you? Start taking credit for all of your wonderful ideas by taking responsibility when things go awry. From now on, no matter what happens, say to yourself, “I am responsible.” It goes like this:
- I am responsible for this situation.
- I am responsible for my happiness.
- I am responsible for my well-being.
- I am responsible for my children’s well-being. (Assuming they’re not adults.)
- I am responsible for performing well on my job.
- I am responsible for making my own way.
- I am responsible for providing for my family.
- I am responsible for my health.
- I am responsible for my energy.
- I am responsible for my growth in every area of my life.
Starting to get the picture? Just saying these things to yourself and resolving to make them come true will increase your self-esteem. When your self-esteem goes up, you accomplish more. When you accomplish more, you feel more successful. When you feel successful, you become successful.
For any part of your life that you are not happy with right now, say, “I am responsible for . . .” and complete the sentence in whatever manner makes sense to you. Isn’t that empowering? Even if you don’t know how you’re going to change things, just accepting the responsibility makes you feel better about it.
Steve Chandler calls this “making yourself the problem.” Because when you’re the problem, you’re also the solution. This analogy caused a major shift in my attitude several years ago. I had all of these perceived problems that I was blaming on everyone else. I felt powerless. Once I accepted complete responsibility for my life and every aspect of it, even the parts I previously thought I had no control over, my life got better.
After I accepted responsibility and started to feel empowered, I first solved all my immediate problems. Then I started creating my life. In hindsight, I was powerless to create my life before accepting full responsibility for it since, after all, everything was everyone else’s fault. I was giving everyone else power to create my life for me. When they didn’t do it the way I wanted, (and they more than likely never will, by the way), I took charge.
Taking charge of your life by accepting full responsibility for everything that happens to you is the key to high self-esteem, self-respect, and personal achievement. It is a very powerful feeling, and all you have to do to get it, is resolve to do so.
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This post was written by Debra Moorhead, Motivation, Education, Inspiration on June 22, 2007