Accept Responsibility

One of the most important personal decisions you can make on your road to success is to accept complete responsibility for everything you are and are currently experiencing, as well as everything you will ever become or experience.  This acknowledgement has been the defining moment for many successful people throughout history.  Personal responsibility is the paramount trait of leadership and the main source of high performance in every person and in every situation.  Let’s take a look at what it means to accept complete responsibility.

When you blame others for anything in your life that you’re not happy about, you’re giving them the power to create (or destroy) your happiness.  Accepting responsibility means that you refuse, even if it’s from this moment on, to criticize or blame others for any reason.  When you accept full responsibility for a situation, it means you have the power to create the solution.  Most of the time, you do that anyway, don’t you?  Start taking credit for all of your wonderful ideas by taking responsibility when things go awry.  From now on, no matter what happens, say to yourself, “I am responsible.”  It goes like this:

  • I am responsible for this situation.
  • I am responsible for my happiness.
  • I am responsible for my well-being.
  • I am responsible for my children’s well-being.  (Assuming they’re not adults.)
  • I am responsible for performing well on my job.
  • I am responsible for making my own way.
  • I am responsible for providing for my family.
  • I am responsible for my health.
  • I am responsible for my energy.
  • I am responsible for my growth in every area of my life.

Starting to get the picture?  Just saying these things to yourself and resolving to make them come true will increase your self-esteem.  When your self-esteem goes up, you accomplish more.  When you accomplish more, you feel more successful.  When you feel successful, you become successful.

For any part of your life that you are not happy with right now, say, “I am responsible for . . .” and complete the sentence in whatever manner makes sense to you.  Isn’t that empowering?  Even if you don’t know how you’re going to change things, just accepting the responsibility makes you feel better about it.

Steve Chandler calls this “making yourself the problem.”  Because when you’re the problem, you’re also the solution.  This analogy caused a major shift in my attitude several years ago.  I had all of these perceived problems that I was blaming on everyone else.  I felt powerless.  Once I accepted complete responsibility for my life and every aspect of it, even the parts I previously thought I had no control over, my life got better.

After I accepted responsibility and started to feel empowered, I first solved all my immediate problems.  Then I started creating my life. In hindsight, I was powerless to create my life before accepting full responsibility for it since, after all, everything was everyone else’s fault.  I was giving everyone else power to create my life for me.  When they didn’t do it the way I wanted, (and they more than likely never will, by the way), I took charge.

Taking charge of your life by accepting full responsibility for everything that happens to you is the key to high self-esteem, self-respect, and personal achievement.  It is a very powerful feeling, and all you have to do to get it, is resolve to do so.

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7 Comments so far

  1. Ghassan June 22, 2007 10:20 am

    Debra
    I am becoming an addicted reader of your blog.
    I would say this is one of the most powerful and informative posts that I’ve ever read about the subject of responsibility.
    Your post is speaking to me, specially now I am at crisis at work
    What did you say here:
    “Even if you don’t know how you’re going to change things, just accepting the responsibility makes you feel better about it”
    That is exactly what is going to make me feel better.
    I will feel better that I was working hard in this crisis with my own option, and I tried my best to get a solution.
    Even I failed, it is an opportunity for me to learn and grow up.

  2. Debra Moorhead June 22, 2007 12:11 pm

    Ghassan,

    I’m glad you’re finding fulfillment here. Please keep me informed of how you’re doing.

  3. Susie November 3, 2007 12:25 pm

    Debra–

    I stumbled upon this post while looking for articles about accepting responsibility. I have a question…I understand the part about accepting responsibility for everything in your life. Does this include responsibility for abusive treatment towards you?

  4. Debra Moorhead November 3, 2007 6:14 pm

    Susie,

    Yes, it does, as long as we are talking about an adult. We teach others how to treat us through what we accept from others.

    Now, that doesn’t mean that you deserve to be abused - not at all. But once you accept responsibility for the abuse, you’re one step closer to having it out of your life.

  5. Cathy Campbell February 22, 2008 7:57 pm

    Hi Debra,
    Great article. As you point out, by taking responsibility for everything in your life and realizing you were intregal in creating it, you recognize you also have the power to change it to a new creation.
    The next step for me was to cultivate my passion and purpose so that I actually desired more than what I was currently experiencing in my life. Daring to take on greater responsibility really.

  6. Debra Moorhead, The Motivation Maven February 23, 2008 11:48 am

    That’s great, Cathy. Please stay in touch and let us know how you’re doing.

  7. Dj Scotty September 17, 2008 12:20 pm

    Debra,
    I feel motivated, educated and inspired!

    I loved reading every word,
    it is all so true!!!

    Scotty =)

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