A new reader recently e-mailed me to ask how I was able to lose 25 pounds in one month.  Unlike many others who have e-mailed me with that question, this reader seemed genuinely interested and open to the truth.  So I shared it with her.  My “secret” is simple and applies to every subject.  But before I share it with you, I want to cover all the bases first.

I didn’t set out to lose that much weight that fast, it just happened.  I wanted to lose 25 pounds, but I didn’t care how long it took.  The calorie-counting system I came up with worked a lot faster than I ever dreamed.  I’ve had scientists e-mail me with encouraging words, teasingly saying things like, “Duh, Debra, of course it worked.  Anyone who would approach the subject like you did would lose that much.  The speed will vary from person to person, depending upon many other factors of their physical health and body, but most people would find it to be very fast.  It’s just how science works.”  Then I’ve had, of course, the nay-sayers who say, “You lost nothing but 25 pounds of water.  You’re either crazy or a liar and shouldn’t mislead people this way.”  I’m guessing the diet didn’t work for that person! 

Of the people who have used my system and had results, but not as quick results, they admitted that they had trouble at first, but that once they “got it,” that’s when things started to turn around for them. 

“Getting it” means this:  You understand that anything is possible if you believe it strongly enough, AND, you believe that so strongly that you are excited about it.  The real power is in the excitement.  If you’re excited about something, you’ll stick with it because you know/believe it works and you don’t modify it because there is no need to do so – you understand/know/believe it will work and are excited about it.  The trick is to maintain your excitement, and that’s what I want to talk about today.

Think about the last time you were excited about anything.  What was it?  Did something miraculous happen?  If you kept your excitement to yourself, either deliberately, or just because you didn’t have time to tell anyone about it, I’ll bet you had a fabulous experience.  Every time I get excited about something, if I can maintain that excitement, which usually means keeping it to myself, I will get what I want out of the situation.  Let me give an example not related to weight loss.

I just attended one my National Speakers Association meetings.  I love the NSA and am very proud to be a member.  Every meeting I attend brings such great benefits to me I cannot even describe them to you with words.

At the first general session, if I am quietly excited about the meeting and what I hope to gain from it, I’ll find myself seated next to members who feel the same way, and are vibrating the same energy.

If I sit down next to someone and start talking about how excited I am about the meeting and what I hope to gain from it, that person invariably starts sharing previous negative experiences at other conferences and brings me down.  I’m sure you’ve had experiences like that.

The reason I was able to lose my weight so quickly is that I was able to quietly maintain my excitement level about the subject of losing weight.  I didn’t share my goal with anyone, so no one discounted my theory or the fact that I needed to lose weight, therefore, no one brought me down and I was truly expecting to lose the weight.  Then, when I began to see results after only one week, the momentum of my quiet excitement, combined with actual results created a synergistic effect to produce quick weight loss.

Now this, in my mind, brings up the question of “contagious enthusiasm.”  A lot of you are probably asking the question, “Are you saying that we should never show our enthusiasm about anything?  Wouldn’t that be kind of a downer in and of itself – if we couldn’t be ourselves or try to share our enthusiasm with others?”  No, I’m not saying that.  Here’s the difference.

In my seminars, I always start with upbeat music and stretching exercises, and then get the group to dance a little.  I find this wakes everyone up and gets their brain juices flowing sort to speak.  Doing this shows my enthusiasm for the subject of the seminar and gets my audience excited, in general, as well.  When you go to work or do whatever it is that you do, it would be fantastic if you could show a general level of enthusiasm for life.  Your life, your everyday life.  That’s great if you already do that. 

BUT . . .

When you have a subject that you are struggling with, whether it is weight loss, finances, work relationships, personal relationships – whatever – you will be better off if you can find a way to become excited about the possibility of things on that subject moving in the direction you want, and then keep that to yourself.  Here’s another example.

Have you ever been excited about a business prospect, shared it with someone, only to have them say, “Oh, you don’t want to work for/do business with them?” 

I could go on and on with examples like this, but I think you’re starting to get the picture.

I now want to address this from the other side as well.  What do you do when someone shares what they believe is a really great idea with you, but you don’t think it’s so hot?  Do you tell them?  I say no – keep your mouth shut.  What do you know about that person’s vibration, energy, and purpose in life?

Most of us would be much better off in our own lives if we could learn to “live and let live.”  That is, after all, what allowing your own well being is about:   Allowing good things to happen in your life means allowing others to have good things as well, whatever that means to them.  We weren’t put on this earth at the same time to be alike.  We are here to experience the contrast, grow with, and help one another.

Oprah recently had Sara Blakely, the lady who created Spanx, on her show.  I was so glad I got to watch that. (I was watching a repeat late at night, so I really don’t know how recent it was, please forgive me.)  Sara went to several people trying to give birth to her product idea, only to be turned down by everyone.  But she maintained her enthusiasm, quietly, and gave birth to it herself, starting her manufacturing company in her apartment. 

There are many stories like this out there. 

So, today, I challenge you to pick up an idea that you maybe once were excited about, but you let someone talk you out of pursuing it.  Yes, some ideas need to be tweaked a little in order to work.  That’s okay.  Edison had over 1000 versions of the light bulb.  Where would we be today if he had let everyone talk him out of his excitement?    

Don’t live life in the dark; be quietly excited about what you want, and don’t squash others’ enthusiasm for their ideas.  Let’s work together for a brighter world, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and energetically.

Until next time,

Live in the Light of Quiet Enthusiasm!

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