I’ve had several close, personal friends come to me lately for advice. Considering this to be a huge compliment and ultimate faith in my ability to give good advice I, naturally, want to help. Most of these people are now avid readers of this blog and know my philosophies, so they have come to me out of a sense of, “This isn’t working for me and I can’t figure out why – can you?”
About 98 percent of the time, every desire not yet manifested, and nearly every problem, stems from four basic areas. Whether it’s something that you’re trying to create, or a situation you’d like to change, consider these 4 questions and you’ll find your blockage almost immediately.
Have you identified your desire in detail? Have you used your imagination to picture the new car, house, people treating you better at work, etc? Your imagination is your most useful tool in recreating your life. Since I just wrote a post on this, Facing Reality, I’m not going to spend any more time on it here, just remember to use your imagination, as you did when you were a child, to visualize your desired outcome – whatever that is. (Most of you are getting pretty good at this. That’s great!)
Do your thoughts reflect your true desire? What is your internal dialogue like? You know what I’m talking about; when you’re going about your daily routine, or just sitting and mindlessly watching television, are your thoughts positive or negative? Are you thinking about what you want and getting excited about it? Or are you imagining “worst case scenarios” for other areas of your life? Read How to Conquer Persistent Negative Thoughts if you think this is an issue for you, and if internal banter is a problem, check out, How to Control Your Internal Dialogue.
Do your words reflect your desire? What do you talk about? I’m not saying that you have to share your goals with everyone you know, in fact, I usually advise against doing so. I’m also not advocating that you talk about your dreams all the time. But all of that gossip, negativity, bringing other people down for no reason whatsoever, or reliving how someone hurt you - all of it lowers your vibration and keeps you from getting what you want. This is probably the biggest room for improvement in the lives of most of my friends. You say you want one thing, but then you talk about all of your problems, everything that’s going wrong in your life, and all in the excuse of needing to talk about it. You would be better off spending that time alone, visualizing your ideal day, interacting with no one, than participating in the latest water cooler scandal. When you sit down for lunch with your co-workers, do you share all the good things that are happening in each others’ lives, or do you talk about the people who aren’t there at the moment, or the boss, or the company, or about how hard it is to make a living working there, etc? Your mother was right: If you don’t have something good to say, say nothing at all.
Read Achieve Success by Surrounding Yourself with a Positive Environment for more on this topic.
Do your actions reflect your aspirations? Are you “acting as if,” in faith? Or are you letting other things get in the way? Are you doing everything you can to be the person you say you want to be right here, right now, in this very moment? Remember, determine what you want to be and then be that; do what you feel inspired to do; and you will have everything you want to have. If you truly believe that your desire is possible, if you believe in God and the universe, and if you believe that all things are possible, your actions will reflect that belief. You will no longer speak unkind things and you will guide your thoughts and develop the ability to focus on your true desires. Once you accomplish this, the world is your oyster. Wouldn’t that be worth it?
Until next time,
This post was written by Debra Moorhead, Motivation, Education, Inspiration on November 28, 2009