We sit around and talk and laugh about it a lot, but it’s one of the greatest obstacles to our careers, and in our lives – indecisiveness. And ladies, you have to admit it, we are worse than men. (Of course, there are always exceptions.)
Have you ever noticed that successful people don’t seem to have much trouble making decisions? And we say, “well, of course not, they’re successful – it’s easy to make decisions when you’re already a success.” Truthfully, it’s easy to make decisions anyway, and doing so will make you successful.
Why do we (especially women) have such a hard time with this? I was recently discussing this topic with some of my gal pals and we decided that it goes back to what we observed our mothers doing when we were young. Our mothers didn’t make many decisions - especially financial decisions. Even if our mothers worked, big-ticket items were always controlled by “Dad.” In our household, my mother would sit and worry over the details of the purchase, while my father made it quite simple – we would buy the cheapest thing available! (Quality sometimes won out, but not often.)
The other issue is that we’ve all been impulsive at some point and had it “back-fire” on us. Buyer’s remorse is never a good feeling. We don’t want to experience it any more often than necessary and we’d like to be able to blame someone else when we do face it again. I can remember accusing Consumer Reports of poor research a couple of times!
If you’ve ever had a life-transforming experience, then you know that every positive change in your life begins with a clear, explicit decision that you are going to either do something or stop doing something. Significant change starts when you decide to either get in or get out, whether it’s life, work, or a relationship, it all starts with the decision, and ends with action.
Your assignment for today is to start making decisions quickly, and feel good about them. Start small and work your way up to more important things. I’ve witnessed women having trouble deciding whether or not to buy a pack of gum at the grocery, and then have trouble deciding which flavor! But them all! Or decide to stick to your budget and buy none. Just make a decision and act on it. By practicing on the smaller efforts, you’ll be prepared and rehearsed for more important conclusions.
Until next time,
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This post was written by Debra Moorhead, Motivation, Education, Inspiration on September 1, 2008