Were you a Seinfeld fan?  One of the main characters on that show was George.  George was a very negative person who constantly sabotaged himself.  One season, he decided to have “opposite day.”  He realized that since all of the decisions he made ultimately turned out bad for him, he was going to experiment with doing the opposite.  The day turned out so good, he decided to become “opposite George.”  So when a situation came up that required a decision, he would contemplate his “normal” response, then do the opposite.  It worked!  His life became much better.

Of course, this was a sitcom, and they turned him back around the next season, but the writers were hitting on something that resonates with a lot of people – we hold ourselves back.  Once we realize it, we can turn it around.  Most of the time, it means thinking the opposite way, making opposite decisions.  Somewhere along the way, we learned a pattern of decision-making that does not support our dreams and goals.  All we have to do is turn that around, but then be patient with ourselves in doing so.

Have you ever given thought as to why some of your goals come easily, some eventually, and others not at all?  When our beliefs and our desires are not a match, our self-esteem suffers.  It’s much more difficult to create your reality when you have low self-esteem.  Learn to turn match your desires to your beliefs, and your self-esteem soars, enabling you to create even more.

I learned this writing exercise several years ago. It has helped me tremendously in focusing on what I want, and it is completely law of attraction based.

At the top of a sheet of paper, write out the details of whatever it is you want.  A reader e-mailed me earlier this week with questions about attracting a good relationship, so I’m going to use that as an example.  Her statement might read something like this; “I want a relationship with a man who adores me as much as I adore him.  He will love to laugh and go to movies and love being good to me.”  Write whatever statements come into your mind and be certain to phrase them in the positive.   In other words do not write, “He would not have crooked teeth or be ugly.” Instead, (if that kind of thing mattered to you), you would write; “I will find him to be attractive in all aspects that matter to me.”  Use your own words and just write until you are finished.  You can always add to it later.

If you’re trying to attract money, it can be as simple as, “I want to earn $100,000 per year.”

Next, write out why you want this.  Something like, “I want someone to share my life with and to love.  I want to experience joy and having this person in my life would help accomplish that goal.  I want someone to share the household chores with.”  Whatever it is – stated in the positive – is okay.  If you just don’t like being alone, write, “I am happier when I have someone to share my time off.  I enjoy spending time with one other special person.”

For the money example, you might write, “This amount of money would allow me to live joyfully, get out of debt, and save for my retirement.”

Then write out why you believe you will have this.  For example, “I believe I will have this because I am a sharing, giving person who is fun to be with and enjoys the company of others.  I have much love to give and there are plenty of men out there who would love to be on the receiving end.”  Be certain that the statements you write are what you believe.  I am just trying to provide examples.  You know yourself better than anyone.

For making $100,000, “I believe I will have this because I am willing to work for it.  I believe I will have this because I have invested several years in college and am capable of performing the tasks necessary to achieve such a salary.”  Or, “I believe I will have this because the universe will bring opportunities to me that will allow for its attainment.”

When I performed this exercise several years ago, I learned that there were many goals on my list for which I had no true desire to achieve.  I also learned that with the goals I was struggling with the most, I had no belief for its actual achievement.

This exercise is very telling!  Do it with each goal, desire, and dream, and you’ll find out if and where you are holding yourself back.

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