The path to manifestation begins with a crystal clear decision about what it is that you want.  Your manifestations will be unclear until you make such a determination about your desires – it’s impossible not to do so, since not picking something is a choice.

–Doreen Virtue in her book, Daily Guidance from Your Angels

Probably one of the largest sources of confusion in regard to the law of attraction and manifesting desires is that of knowing what we want in the first place.  Every time I lead a seminar, I have people tell me they don’t know what they want.  I understand that dilemma and I think everyone has been there at some point during their lifetime.

Part of the problem is that we want everything:  adventure as well as safety; opportunity and security; solitude and community; fame and privacy; change and stability; money and ease; and I’m sure you can add your own.

Many people stay in that place of never making a firm decision using the excuse that they want to “go with the flow” or “just accept destiny.”  Many people believe that the life they live is pre-determined.  Of course, if that’s what you choose to believe, then it is.  Just don’t complain when you don’t like the “cards you’re dealt,” or the results you end up with when going with the flow.  It’s like Doreen says, “. . . not picking something is a choice.”

Every once in a while, at least once per year, it’s a good idea to take some time to reflect on your long-term goals.  If you’ve been focusing on these goals daily, or at least weekly, you could find yourself attempting to acquire something you no longer want.  Sometimes we get into the specifics of a particular desire and decide we’re not willing to put forth the action necessary to successfully realize its accomplishment.  I often hear, “I want to make money, but I don’t want to work.”

The contradiction in that statement is so obvious to me now on so many levels I sometimes find it difficult to explain.  Old-style motivational gurus would tell you that you can’t have one without the other.  In many ways, they are accurate.  But it goes deeper than that.

New Age philosophers would tell you that you need to work on your belief system – that there are ways of making money without working for it and you just need to tap into what the universe sends you in the way of opportunities.  The problem with that is when people spend their savings on get-rich-quick schemes they find on the internet.  And, it’s much deeper than that.

The latest “law of attraction teachers” tell us to find ways of “adding value” to the universe and we will be compensated gloriously.  I’ve tried that.  It seems to be taking an awfully long time!

Abraham will tell you to put your intention out in the form of “I want to find ways of making money that are compatible with me.”  That will work, but it still goes deeper.

At some point when deciding what it is you truly want, you must make a decision as to the heart of your desire.  You must remove the contradiction by focusing on it until it no longer contradicts.  This is a little deeper than I normally go with the law of attraction, so let me give you an example.

“I want to make money, but I don’t want to work.”  What you’re really saying is, “I can’t have what I want because I believe that I don’t want it badly enough to do something that would make me uncomfortable.”

The first thing you need to do is change your thought pattern to, “I can have whatever I truly want.”

The question I use in seminars to get around the contradiction is, “If money were no object, what would you do?”  (I’m sure you’ve heard that one before.)

So the participant will answer with something like, “teach.  I want to be a teacher.”

I’ll respond with, “And teachers don’t make money?”

“Well, not the kind of money I want to make.” (Participant)

Me:  “Okay, but right now you’re not making anything, and you’re not teaching.”

Participant:  “I’ve never thought of it that way before.  So you think I should pursue a teaching career?”

Me:  “How much money do you think teachers earn?”

The participant usually has a pretty good idea and responds appropriately.  Then I’ll say, “Would $30,000 per year make a difference in your life right now?”

Participant:  “Yes, it would.”

Me: “What was the question?”

All of a sudden this participant has a purpose, a direction, a path, and by the end of the seminar, a plan for action.

Whatever it is that you’ve been wanting but is not manifesting into your experience, take a moment to write out your statement of desire and look for contradiction.  More than likely, it will be there.

Then ask yourself the question, “If _______ were not an issue, what would I do?”

The answer might surprise you, but then continue from there.  I use this process a lot and it helps, but it works best when I’m helping others – so enlist a friend if necessary.

Start making crystal clear choices about your desires.  It’s okay if you don’t know how to reach the goal or what specific actions to take.  Focus on the overarching dream and the steps will come to you.  Getting the contradiction out of the way is the first step.

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