Being an entrepreneur is very rewarding. The challenge of pulling together a mastermind and creating something that benefits the world is life-giving in and of itself whether you accomplish your goal or not.
But sometimes, things happen that are out of your control and you just have to roll with the punches. Having clearly defined values so that you can make split-second decisions in a crisis is an invaluable tool of extreme importance.
Last night, someone very dear to me called and did not sound good. He has come down with the flu. I dropped everything, including writing today’s article, (which was going to be lengthy - so you can thank him later), to take care of him.
I was able to do so and not worry about my commitment to my blog or my readers, because the health and welfare of my family and friends comes first. Yes, this blog is important to me, but not as important as my personal relationships.
Some will be asking, “But what about your commitment to yourself? Don’t you always say to take care of yourself first, because if you don’t, you won’t have anything to give anyone else?”
Yes. I do say that and I still do. So here’s how this works. (I’m really grateful for the opportunity to explain this in this way.)
By dropping my schedule and running to his side, I was true to myself because I was true to my values. I was, in that moment, completely selfish, because I chose my own needs, specifically, the need to be authentic, the desire to be authentic, over the need to keep someone else happy. Taking care of those I care about is who I am, even more so than being a writer.
The best part is, I was able to come home, watch the series finale of Desperate Housewives, and then write this post, which was just as good as the one I had planned. So staying true to myself led to an even greater lesson to share with all of you.
How was I able to make a decision so quickly? Because I’ve identified my values and know them by heart.
If you’re not sure that you could make such a split-second decision and feel good about it, perhaps a review of your values is in order. Determining Your Values is a post I wrote back in 2007 that will be very helpful to you whether you’re writing your first draft of your values, or simply need a review. Or perhaps it’s time for you to update your values so that you can make better decisions in every moment.
In any case, be sure to commit your values to memory and make sure they represent you completely, so that making split-second decisions comes naturally and intuitively.
Until next time,
This post was written by Debra Moorhead, Motivation, Education, Inspiration on May 14, 2012