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Would you like to:

Identify your mission in life?

Find your passion(s)?

Increase the connection to your higher self?

Develop self-discipline once and for all?

Define your governing values?

Determine what action to take and when?

Learn the process of re-creating your life the way you want it?

Experience increased motivation and inspiration?

Develop your intuition?

Lose weight?

Make more money?

Achieve all your goals?

Get real about “Life Balance?”  Better yet . . .

Love life and feel in control of the direction you’re headed?

If you want it, you can create it and you can learn how in a relaxing setting where you’ll not only feel wonderful, but have the time to think, plan and take charge of your life once and for all.  Interested in learning more?  Read on . . .

I am so excited to finally announce that my personal development retreat, Wake Up and Create the Life You Want, is scheduled and ready for enrollment!  The details have already been e-mailed to those who signed up for more information, but here’s the skinny for all of you.

The retreat will take place May 30 – June 1, at the French Quarter Inn in Maysville, Kentucky.  This retreat is for women only, sorry guys, but I’ll have something for both genders in a few months.

Our focus will be on harnessing the creation process to create the life of your dreams.  It doesn’t matter where you are, or where you want to be, or how far it seems in between; you can get there from here!  I’m not kidding here – I’ve helped hundreds of people do this now and I am enthusiastically ready to help those who attend this retreat.

We’ll of course be discussing the Law of Attraction and “The Secret behind ‘The Secret.’”  I’ll even have videos available of, “The Secret,” “The Secret Behind ‘The Secret,’” and Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life - The Movie,” in case you haven’t had a chance to view one or more of them.  But it gets better . . .

The best part is, not only will you get the benefit of my experiences in re-creating my life and the stories I’ll share about others who have been through my classes, but I’m expecting women from all walks of life to be in attendance, and we’ll get to share with each other, learn from one another, and help each other by sharing your own unique gifts and experiences, as you feel led to, as well. 

I am basically bringing all of the material from my “Wake Up and Create the Life You Want” seminar, which has been held locally with much success, and developing it into a more relaxed yet intense process where you will have time to think, rest, get connected to Spirit, and have that personal time you need to make it happen.  I will also be covering the material from my “Managing a Mid-Life Career Change” seminar, so if you’re a baby-boomer getting ready to retire, but not ready to quit contributing to society, you’ll love this retreat!  But it gets even better . . .

We will be in a very “posh” setting, but the mood will be casual and relaxed.  Wear your yoga pants or whatever is comfortable for you.  Anything goes . . . ‘cept naked!  (That’s a-whole-nother retreat!)

There will be enough down time that you will be able to think and reflect on what you’ve learned or discovered about yourself.  At the same time, there will be plenty of activities to keep you occupied.  You can take a nature walk, go for a bike ride, or even a nice long drive along the Ohio River.  The pool will be open, so bring your bathing suit.

All rooms have a hot tub, except for the wheelchair accessible rooms. The Inn has a bar that is open nightly from 6 PM to Midnight. 

The food will be light, but abundant and all meals, from Friday night to Sunday breakfast are included in the price of the retreat.  I’m planning healthy dishes with a little decadence to illustrate how I maintain my size 4 figure.  For those who are interested, I will discuss in detail How I Lost 25 Pounds in One Month.  Even better . . .

I am limiting this first retreat to 20 participants.  That will make it easy for me to customize the material on demand.  So whatever it is you want to learn to create or change about your life, we will spend time on that.  You’ll be surprised at how many others share your same desire, even if it seems like no one around you where you live understands you at all.  That’s the amazing thing about events like this – birds of a feather flock together; the universe will bring the right people together to make it an amazing experience for everyone! 

A massage therapist will be available and I will send more information about this once you register for the retreat.  A hair stylist and manicurist/pedicurist are also available by appointment.  These professionals will come to the hotel; we will just need to arrange the schedule once we know how many are interested. 

Who Should Attend?

Anyone interested in personal development will benefit from attending this retreat and I think you can see that.  To be more specific so that you know what to expect, the schedule for the retreat will perfectly accommodate a Type A personality, since that is my personality type.  For those of you who may be unfamiliar with that description, a Type A personality likes to relax, but she likes to do it in fifteen minutes!  However, if I’m with a friend who’s a Type B and she wants to relax for a couple of hours, that’s okay too, and I’m allowing for that in the schedule knowing that not everyone is like me. (Nor would I ever want that!)  So you can come and go as you please and each section will be compartmentalized so that you don’t feel like you’ve missed out on something if you choose to go for a nature walk instead of creating a vision board.  And you can always create your vision board later, either at the retreat on your own time, or even when you get back home – it’s all up to you.  I plan to work with people individually, providing my coaching services as requested and I’ll be happy to cover anything you miss but are curious about.

My vision is that you’ll leave on Sunday with renewed passion and enthusiasm for LIFE!

Fees:

If you register on or before April 30, 2008:

$549 includes your private room for Friday and Saturday nights, all meals during the retreat as mentioned above, and all seminars. 

$495 includes your room shared with one other female, all meals during the retreat as mentioned above, and all seminars.  

$395 is for those who live locally and desire to stay at home but still attend the retreat.  This price includes all meals as mentioned above and all planned retreat activities.

If you register on or after May 1, 2008:

The fees go up because we will lose our group rate on April 30^th.  So . . .

$599 includes your private room for Friday and Saturday nights, all meals during the retreat as mentioned above, and all seminars.

$520 includes your room shared with one other female, all meals during the retreat as mentioned above, and all seminars.

$395 remains the same since no room is involved. This price includes all meals as mentioned above and all planned retreat activities.

Transportation

If you’re flying in for this event, you’ll want to fly into the Cincinnati/Northern Kentucky International Airport (CVG).  You will not likely need vehicular transportation once you arrive at the retreat center, so if you’re interested in splitting a rental car with another attendee to get from the airport to Maysville, I’ll be happy to coordinate that.  I’ll be sending a form to all attendees closer to the event date, and on an as-needed basis to indicate your specific preferences on all of these mentioned variables. 

We will begin at 4 PM on Friday and end at 11 AM on Sunday.  These times should accommodate everyone’s travel arrangements, but if they do not, we will make adjustments as necessary, just let me know what you need.

Any glitch can be overcome; the most important factor, is that you leave this retreat TRANSFORMED!

Questions?

E-mail me at Debra_M@alltel.net with any questions and I promise to get back to you within 24 hours with an answer.

In the meantime,

Live Joyfully!

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We’ve all been there; you know you need to think positively in order to achieve your dreams; you want to be in a good mood; you don’t want to be depressed, blah, or a downer to others, but for whatever reason you just can’t shake the negative thoughts that keep running through your mind.  They don’t even make sense – you’re daydreaming about things that likely will never happen.  You’re good at catching yourself, you even think, “Why would I want to create that – stop it!”  But the negative thoughts keep coming.

Can you relate?

I can.

Everyone goes through those spells from time to time. Maybe it’s a temporary chemical imbalance, not enough exposure to sunshine, or something else entirely and something we have no awareness of, but whatever the cause, I have a few solutions for you.

I recently went through a spell like this over the weekend.  It was one of those situations where your husband suspects he did something wrong, but has no idea what.  Then when he asks, “Have I done something wrong,” you want to respond with, “No!  Oh my God!  Does everything have to be about you?  Can’t I just be in a bad mood without it having anything to do with you?  Good grief, grow up already!”

Luckily, when he asked me this weekend, I was able to control my reaction and reassured him, kindly and gently, that I was simply in a bad mood, he did nothing wrong, and then I confessed that I really didn’t know what was wrong with me. 

I’m sure you’ve been there.  You have nothing to complain about, nothing’s wrong, but things just don’t feel right either.

At first I blamed it on our weather, but truthfully, that didn’t make sense because usually when it rains, I write really well.  On the other hand, we did get ice, not snow, not rain, ice, so maybe that was the difference.  I also had a severe sinus headache that no amount of over-the-counter medication would knock out.  Whatever it was, I had no control over it, but I know that I have control over my thoughts and was determined to turn my mood around.  Here’s what I did and suggest that you try the next time you find yourself with persistent negative thoughts.

1. Watch a good movie.  I mean, a good movie.  Something that will capture and keep your attention.  This serves as a distraction and as long as your thoughts are not negative, you’re on the right path.  However, if the movie is bad and you’re sitting there thinking, “Oh, this is so predictable.  I’m so old.  I’ve seen every movie ever made.  Is this how the rest of my life is going to be . . .”  - you need to choose a different movie.  Comedies are usually good since anything that makes you laugh should put you in a good mood, but again, it can’t be too lame.  I saw Fool’s Gold  this weekend and it was the perfect distraction, despite the not-so-great reviews.  The tropical setting of the movie was a much welcomed relief from the snow and ice we’d been having and I didn’t find the plot predictable at all.  I came out of the movie feeling much better than when I went in so, mission accomplished! 

    

2. Engage in physical tasks.  Now, it can’t be just any physical tasks, everyday chores might put you in an even worse mood.  Try tackling a project that will require a new set of skills or brainpower.  I installed new window fixtures and curtains in my home office.  That’s normally something we pay someone else to do, but I thought I’d give a try and lo and behold, it worked!  It provided a nice distraction, got my mind off my headache, and made me feel like I’d conquered a new domain. 

    

3. Daydream.  What I’m talking about here is actually practicing, like an art, daydreaming from a positive perspective.  Use your imagination to visualize something great happening to you.  Maybe your biggest dream is coming true, or you’re winning the lottery.  Pick anything but try to make this exercise run for about 15 minutes.  I utilized this technique as I was falling asleep one night and it helped tremendously both with falling asleep, and my thoughts and feelings the next day.  I’ve added this practice to my morning ritual; it serves as a protective covering, like a sealant on a tooth if you will, for my thoughts, and sets the tone for my day.

There is great power in thinking and feeling positively on a regular basis.  Don’t underestimate it, and don’t let a nagging headache, the weather, or general malaise get control over you.

Until next time,

Live Joyfully!

Today I have some additional pearls for your consumption:

Wendy Wallace at DesireToGrow.com interviewed me a couple of weeks ago for her online course.  She has graciously allowed me to post the audio for my readers, so if you’re interested, you can download it here.  I highly recommend Wendy’s program; I believe everyone would learn a lot from it, and there’s a money-back guarantee so you risk nothing but have everything to gain. 

Jennifer Kumar at  AlaiVani.com interviewed me last week for her “Website Wednesday” regular post.  Jennifer has become one of my favorite bloggers with great content and insights.  You can read the results of that interview here.  Thanks, Jennifer!

Finally, a reader inspired by my post, How I Lost 25 Pounds in One Month, wanted to share with all of you the Excel spreadsheet she created to monitor her caloric intake.  Click here to download Monica’s 30-Day Food Diary.  What a great tool - thanks, Monica!

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Have you ever had a recurring dream?  Whether it’s at night while sleeping or a re-visited daydream before your mid-afternoon break, what you’re dreaming about is a clue from your soul, spirit, or higher self.  The good news is, it’s a two-way street; not only does your spirit talk to you through dreams, you can use your imagination to communicate with your higher self.  Let me explain.

Since your thoughts create your reality, you can create the life you want by learning to  control your thinking.  I’ll be blogging more about this later, but Karen Lynch has a great article over at LiveThePower.com  - check out As You Wish . . . Create Your Life.

Once you get a handle on thinking positively, you can create an even better life for yourself by learning to think in bigger and unlimited ways.  I’m sure you’ve heard of “thinking big.”  The power of this concept lies in the fact that unlimited thinking increases your creativity, expands your possibilities, and draws greater opportunities to you.  Visualizing limitlessly allows you to experience the feelings you will have once you have obtained your desire, and those feelings are the vehicle that bring your desire to you.  Why?  Because by thinking and feeling positively about something, you’re communicating with your higher self in a way that it can vibrate your desire into the universe and generate cooperation from Source energy.

Unlimited thinking helps you get in touch with the larger picture of your life and links you to the greater vision of your higher self; it helps you fulfill your potential.  In fact, every time you think of the future you are creating a possible direction.  Therefore, your dreams and fantasies are showing you your potential.  Everything you dream about is possible for you, or you wouldn’t be able to dream about it in the first place.  Isn’t that fantastic!  If you can get that, and I mean really get it, you’ll never think small or in a limited fashion ever again.

If you’re goal is to make $100,000 a year, imagine what it would feel like to make $1,000,000.  Okay, maybe you don’t want that – that’s okay.  What would be “over-the-top” in a glorious way for you?

Here’s a fun exercise and my challenge to you for today:  Imagine that it is one year from now and you are reflecting on all your accomplishments.  What are they?  How does it feel?  Think of many things – create a list.

Your imagination is your closest link to your soul for like the spirit, your imagination can travel into any dimension or world.  It can create unlimited future paths and help you perceive all possible outcomes and evaluate choices.  Dreams represent potential because the soul is capable of anything.

Until next time,

Live Joyfully!

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Today I want to share with you some wardrobe-building concepts that have served me well for many years:  I don’t ever recall saying, “I have nothing to wear.”  I’m often told, “You look like you just stepped out of a magazine.”  I was voted “Best Dressed” in high school and college, and I’m frequently sought out for wardrobe advice.

I am not a fashion diva; I do not wear designer couture.  I am a business woman and would describe my everyday style as mostly business-casual, although I do have a sufficient number of outfits to go up and down the scale, from a formal evening to gardening.  I mostly wear pantsuits when I’m out, and slacks and sweaters when I’m at home.  For the most part, I think I’m just like everyone else – all of you – but with a little twist that makes me unique.  (You have it, too, you might just need to call it out.)

My overall philosophy is, Look Your Best Every Day, so even if I’m only going to be at home, by myself, writing all day, I don’t stay in my pajamas.  I’ve tried it, since so many people tout that it’s the grandest feeling the world, but I disagreed.  I just couldn’t get my energy level high enough.  Pajamas are for sleeping and relaxing; not working.  Friends who swear by it will admit, when pressed, to feeling draggy all day when they stay in their night clothing or even sweats. 

In a nutshell, I have gardening clothes for gardening, exercise clothes for exercising, upscale suits and pantsuits for speaking and leading seminars, formal attire for the proper occasions, and comfortable, sometimes “fun” clothes for working at home – writing, cooking, and doing housework.

My accessories are simple and classic such as:  Black Mary-Jane pumps – 2 pairs of the same style to be able to alternate, a black crocodile Brahmin purse that I will carry for at least 2 years without changing, one each of silver, gold, and pearl necklaces with earrings to match.  (Okay, I have more jewelry than that, but this is what I pull from on a regular basis.)

Here are the concepts that I find myself repeating to friends and family who ask for my help, whether they need help de-cluttering their closet, or putting together the perfect wardrobe. 

1. Loosen up the purse strings.  I’ve had to work with my mother on this for several years and she has finally come around, although she does relapse every now and again.  Here’s the scoop:  She had no problem buying clothes, as long as they were at 1950s prices!  Every year the cost of quality items go up just a little and if you’re on a diet for very long where you don’t want to buy something new until you are at your ideal weight, or if you bought a new wardrobe of quality clothing that lasts for several seasons, or you have a baby, or you just don’t buy clothing very often, you might find that the next time you go shopping you end up with a lot of sticker shock.  To get over this, go to a mall and start looking at the price tags in several different upscale stores.  Just go and look for a couple of hours before you buy anything.  Doing this will help you get used to the new pricing strategies.  If you want your hometown mall prices to look really good, visit Rodeo Drive!  Cheap outfits have never looked good on me and I’ve found that those garments just don’t hold up as well either.  The better bargain is to spend a little extra for quality that will last much longer.

2. Don’t say, “I’ll never have anywhere to wear this.”  What – so you can tell the future?  Well, aren’t you special!  A true psychic would never make a prediction like that!  This is the reason that when that special event comes up, you say, “I have nothing to wear.”  How many times have you needed to find an outfit for a special occasion, went shopping, but there was nothing, and I mean nothing, in any store, in any mall within driving distance, that even fit you, let alone that you liked!  Right there is reason enough to buy it when you find it.  Listen to that still, small, voice.  If you’re being pulled to an item or outfit you just love, go for it!  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought I would never use something or couldn’t figure out how it would fit into my lifestyle when, after trusting my instinct, I immediately found a use for it.  Maybe an occasion suddenly came up or I decided to dress a little differently on vacation.  We are drawn to certain items because of the energy they have that, for whatever reason, syncs with ours.  Trust it, and go for it.  You’ll be glad you did.

3. On the flip side of that, I always say, “When in doubt, don’t.”  So I don’t buy it if I don’t love it.  There’s a difference between loving something and holding yourself back by saying, “I’ll never have anywhere to wear it,” and knowing in your gut that you’ll never wear it because you don’t really like it.  On a similar note, as I’m getting older, I’m finding that there are certain styles that, while I like them on younger women, I just wouldn’t be comfortable in them.  There are few things more hideous than a 40-year-old trying to look like she’s 20!  I’ve always thought it made the woman look even older.  Also, don’t dress like a 60-year old if you’re 40.  Being truly comfortable in your own skin means you’ll act and dress your age, and be proud of whatever that is!  You’re awesome and you know it – there’s no need to prove anything to anyone.

4. Buy the complete outfit.  Think head to toe.  Shoes, purse, accessories, jewelry, hosiery, underwear.  Since most of the items in my closet coordinate with black, if I fall in love with an outfit that will require brown accessories, I’ll have to purchase them and I’ll do that immediately if possible.  If I can’t find one particular item, say, the shoes to make the outfit, I’ll make sure it goes on my shopping list.  That way, I’m “on the lookout” everywhere I go.  I have made the mistake of forgetting something like that and ended up not being able to wear the outfit – ever – because I didn’t have the right shoes.  (Don’t worry, it only happened once!)  Also don’t make the mistake of thinking, “Well, I’ll buy the pants and the jacket, but I already have a blouse just like that at home.”  You probably don’t.  We don’t remember colors that well and if you’ve had the blouse for a while, the style probably won’t match your new outfit.  Also, if you stay within the same style of dress, you’ll need both blouses anyway because you’ll wear them both between laundry days.  Don’t be afraid to have more than one of something you love.  (Except spouses – but that’s another post!)

    

5. Wear your correct size.  You might think this goes without saying and we’ve all witnessed women in clothing too tight, and occasionally too loose, but I wanted to bring this up because it was a problem for me a little while back.  When I was in orthodontic treatment, I got down to a size 0.  It’s an extremely difficult size to find and I had a closet full of size 4’s, with a few 2’s.  Out of pure necessity, I was wearing clothing a little too loose, but I knew it was a temporary situation so I didn’t want to purchase too many items in that size because I didn’t want to stay that size.  One problem I had to overcome once I started gaining weight, was that I was so used to my outfits fitting loosely, that sometimes the item would fit, but I thought it was too tight – my reference point had changed.  As I started to move back into 4’s from 2’s, I would catch myself wearing the 2’s because I liked them, even though they were too tight.  Then, I started to wonder if I should lose weight to stay in the 2’s!  Don’t worry – I’m back in 4’s with a few 6’s, and that’s the healthy way I plan to stay.  But it took me a while and I wanted to share that to let you know it can happen to anyone – even us skinny-minnies!

6. Let go.  Let go of anything stained, whether it’s from food or armpits, anything that doesn’t fit, whether it’s too large or too small, and please, for pity’s sake, let go of anything you just don’t like, whether you hated to begin with and so have never worn it, or you’ve just grown tired of it.  Move on.  If the item is in good shape, donate it. 

When it comes to organization, I suggest going through your closet, piece by piece, and eliminate anything that doesn’t thrill you.  Please note – they should thrill you.  If you have a favorite pair of sweats that you only wear when you’re sick, but you love to wear them then and they somehow make you feel better, keep ‘em!  Don’t trade your values for mine.  My purpose for writing this is to help you identify and live closer to your values.  So when I say, “eliminate anything that doesn’t thrill you.” I mean you. 

I’m always flattered when asked for advice and love to help when I can, but you have your own style – wear it!

Until next time,

Live Joyfully!

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Self-discipline has been a topic of great interest to me for as long as I can remember.  Recently while reminiscing with a high-school classmate she made the observation, “Debra, you were always so much more mature than the rest of us!”  I never saw myself that way back then, but looking back, I suppose it was that strive toward order and control that sometimes drove my friends nuts!

That’s not to say that I haven’t matured since high school – I certainly hope I have!  But self-discipline means something entirely different to me these days.  Instead of mere willpower to create a plan and adhere rigidly to it, requiring great fetes of strength of mind, will, and character, I now approach self-discipline as the ability to do the right things according to my highest good and to change course immediately if need be.  Allow me to explain.

My old paradigm of self-discipline was to create a plan of action and follow it to the letter.  Thoughts – words – planning – action.  Eventually, if you stick with your plan, accomplishment ensues.  While this paradigm certainly works and served me well for many years, I’ve outgrown it.

My new paradigm is this:  Desire – Insight – Achievement.  What’s the advantage?  SPEED! 

Over the years, I’ve learned that anything and everything I’ve ever wanted was always within my grasp, I just had to get out of my own way, out of my limited way of thinking, and allow it into my experience.  How?  By allowing the intelli