As promised, here is more of my response to the e-mail sent in by a reader last week.  I am picking up where I left off.  Here is the portion of the e-mail I will be addressing today.

I have been working very hard on the principles of The Science of Getting Rich, positive thinking, the law of attraction, etc. but my subconscious mind is acting as a very strong opposing force that reminds me and enforces the “truth” of my current situation now - the reality of where I am and the wide chasm of where I want to be (my ideal - as a father, husband, businessman, etc). By constantly focusing and concentrating on a huge vision which encompasses my desires, dreams, goals & ideals am I not just setting myself up for more negative feelings if my expectations are not met? Am I getting caught up in a vicious cycle of failure and disappointment because I am not manifesting what I want as quickly as I want it?

“I have been working very hard” 

Have you even noticed that when you work really hard for something, it takes forever to materialize?  Sometimes you just work and work and work, and get nowhere.  When you finally let it go, an inspiration comes to you and you finish the project with ease.  I’ve had that happen to me so many times I’ve lost count.  The universe does not force things upon us, and we cannot force things upon the universe. It’s like saying, “Make me believe in you, God.”   We have to ask, and believe with our own free will.  But if we ask, and we put ourselves in alignment with it, it is given.  I promise you this.  When you’re working hard, you’re saying, “Okay, God.  I want this and this and this and this, oh, but I don’t want You to do anything.  I’m going to do this on my own.  I’m going to work hard and do all this myself.  I don’t need You.  I just wanted you to know that I want this.”  So, the universe says, “Ok.  Go ahead.”  You work and work, getting nowhere.  Finally, you give up.  You say, ‘Ok, God.  If you want me to have this, it’s up to You.  I’ve tried everything I can think of, and I quit.”  Then God says, “Did you try this?”  You do it, it works, and you think, “Why didn’t I do that six months ago?”

“but my subconscious mind is acting as a very strong opposing force that reminds me and enforces the “truth” of my current situation now”  

The harder you work at trying to make all of this happen, the stronger will be your opposition.  Take control of your subconscious mind through your conscious mind.  TRUST, believe, and accept that everything you desire is on its way to you.  RELAX with it.  How?  Remember the last time you were pushing for a deadline.  You worked hard and pushed through, maybe pulled some all-nighters, but you made it.  How did you FEEL afterward?  Relieved?  Remember that feeling.  Really remember it.  Conjure it up.  Let your muscles relax and enjoy that feeling of success for a few seconds.  Now, with that same feeling, know that everything is coming, just as you want it. Feel that, and hold on to that feeling as much as you can, as often as you can, anytime you think about what you want.

“the reality of where I am and the wide chasm of where I want to be (my ideal - as a father, husband, businessman, etc).” 

I love the phrase “wide chasm.”  I just think that is such an eloquent way to describe our longings.  It is often a wide chasm from where we are to where we want to be, and that’s fantastic!  But you know what?  When you do get there, you’re still going to want more.  There will always be a wide chasm, and that’s great too!  It is our nature to want to be better, have more, and do more.  And you always will until the day you die.  And the universe can deliver.  And the universe will deliver every time you make yourself ready to receive, and hold the belief that you can have, be, and do more.

But here’s the thing.  We cross that wide chasm one day at a time.  Each and every day you must put yourself in alignment with what you want.  If you hold that faith each day, then each day will become a day of passage toward your ultimate goal.  If you were going to cross the Grand Canyon, would you start out and expect to be on the other side in one minute?  Or would you take it one step at a time? 

“By constantly focusing and concentrating on a huge vision which encompasses my desires, dreams, goals & ideals am I not just setting myself up for more negative feelings if my expectations are not met?”

How do you know when your expectations have not been met?  How do you know that they’re not on their way to you?  If you arrived at the bottom of the canyon in one day, looked up and saw that you were not on the other side, what would you do?  Turn around and go back to where you started?  Or would you set up camp, get some rest, and start on your journey again, the next day?  I’ve been at the bottom of the canyon many times, but until a couple of years ago, I kept turning around and going back to where I started out of frustration of not getting to the other side as soon as I thought I should.  Are you doing the same?  If so, it’s time to take the first step toward the other side of the canyon.

“Am I getting caught up in a vicious cycle of failure and disappointment”

ONLY if that is what you choose.  I strongly recommend that you get caught up in a vicious cycle of success and joy.  But, hey, it’s your life.  You get to create it any way you want it.

“I am not manifesting what I want as quickly as I want it?” 

Manifestations come about only after two things have taken place.  First, you have to decide, in detail what you want, and tell the universe what it is – exactly.  Wattles says that you can’t tell the universe what you want until you know exactly what that is for yourself.  So write it out with every detail.  Second, you must believe and have faith that your desire is being met.  We only have to ask the universe once for anything.  In fact, if you keep asking, you’re not in full belief that it’s being delivered and therefore, it isn’t.  What You can do is clarify to the universe how you want it each and every day.  The only thing is, every time you change your mind, it’s going to take a little longer for it to materialize.  This dilemma often trips people up, so let me give you an example.

Imagine that you call your local car dealership ready to buy a new car.  But you don’t want one off the lot, you want special features.  So the dealership places the order for you and the factory starts building your car.  After a couple of days, you get to thinking about it and decide that instead of a tan interior, you’d rather have gray.  Now, your car was just coming off the line, but now you say you don’t want it, you want something else instead.  So they start over on your request.  A couple of days later, you change your mind about the exterior color, and the same process happens again.  Get the drift?  I’m not saying don’t change your mind about anything.  You can change your mind as often as you want – and you should – in order to get exactly what you want, just realize that until you truly want it and are ready to receive it, it is not going to manifest.

And saying things like, “Well, I’m really not that picky, I’ll take any new car the universe is willing to give me,” doesn’t work either.  This is your creation.  The universe, as I said before, doesn’t force anything on us.  You have to want it, and expect it.

Remember the process:

1. Control Your Thoughts; Focus on Truth
2. Be Grateful
3. Find Your Purpose
4. Set Clear, Definite Goals
5. Receive Through Inspired Action
6. Maintain Faith
7. Be An Example Of Excellence To Others

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